Bullying is a learned behavior. The concept that underlies bullying is "if you don't like someone, attacking them physically or psychological is the way to correct it". Bullying is a hateful act, and it requires a hateful child (at heart) to engage in it. I strongly believe that if a child (or adult) loves themselves and feels loved by others, then they do not feel the urge to attack others. Not only is bullying an attempt to assert dominance over others, but it's also a vent for suppressed frustration.
I believe the biggest cause for bullying behavior is the parents themselves. When a parent attacks their children verbally or physically, they are teaching their children that if they don't like a certain behavior in others, they are to act aggressively towards them. This is why I think it's a terrible thing to yell at or around children and obviously to attack them physically. Prisons are filled with people that had well-intentioned parents who didn't know parenting-skills any better than rocket building skills.
If your child bullies, then you not only need to have a calm, intelligent (as possible) conversation with the child (centered around empathy for others), but you also need to have a look in the mirror at what you did wrong; examples of failed parenting falls into areas like your children's television consumption, your reaction to their troublesome behavior, what you teach them regarding other people (realize that they learn by overhearing conversations). It's also important for a parent to be an open source for children to discuss problems with. It's important to never downplay their problems or denigrate them—this will teach them to not be open to you.
I believe the biggest cause for bullying behavior is the parents themselves. When a parent attacks their children verbally or physically, they are teaching their children that if they don't like a certain behavior in others, they are to act aggressively towards them. This is why I think it's a terrible thing to yell at or around children and obviously to attack them physically. Prisons are filled with people that had well-intentioned parents who didn't know parenting-skills any better than rocket building skills.
If your child bullies, then you not only need to have a calm, intelligent (as possible) conversation with the child (centered around empathy for others), but you also need to have a look in the mirror at what you did wrong; examples of failed parenting falls into areas like your children's television consumption, your reaction to their troublesome behavior, what you teach them regarding other people (realize that they learn by overhearing conversations). It's also important for a parent to be an open source for children to discuss problems with. It's important to never downplay their problems or denigrate them—this will teach them to not be open to you.
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