Homosexual Fantasy

In my previous post 'What is Faith?' I compared religious faith to being faithful in a relationship. And that faith in God is essentially the idea that you will not be with any other gods, along with remaining loyal to God (as seen in the 10 commandments) — so there is little difference between the two.

There are many other parallels between the relationship one has with God and that of a sexual partner. It says in the Bible that if you are "with" any other god, The Lord becomes filled with anger and jealousy — which is what typically happens in relationships that break off because of cheating or whatever. I could list many more, but that is not the purpose of this post (perhaps I'll get into more down the road). The purpose of this post is to add insight to why priests tend to be more homosexual/asexual then what is represented by population as a whole.

I do no believe that the church creates these sorts of people, I feel that they are drawn to the church.  Much of this is obvious, but let me run through what I believe causes this. First off, the idea of celibacy is incredibly unattractive to males; the majority are hard-wired to reproduce — you do however have some people on the fringe, that have a different biological set-up. Imagine being homo/asexual, while at the same time living in a culture that has an extreme dislike of those sorts of people. A culture that heavily promotes marriage (between a man and a women) and creating a family. Obviously if you are asexual (are not attracted to either sex) or are homosexual, being a catholic priest, for example, would be a good fit. Playing a role in society is an important thing for humans, we are a social species, we want to belong. Being celibate for religious reasons is considered a respectable thing to do, especially in a more traditional culture; and it is something which would be preferable to someone who is asexual or an in-the-closet homosexual.

But this is obvious, I believe there is another reason for why the church is such a magnet for these type of people. And it is the homosexual-fantasy. It is often said that god is an imaginary friend for adults. When children are young, they often have imaginary friends to help cope with loneliness. Imaginary friends give a sense of security and companionship that is not offered for a person in reality. And as it was said previously, there are only a few differences between the relationship one has with God with the one one has with a lover. So God can fill that hole closet-homosexual-men have, the void of not having a partner. God being the ultimate masculine figure, would be the perfect imaginary friend for these sorts of people. Their imaginations would provide a sense of security. Women tend to look for intelligent men that can provide protection and give them the feeling of being loved (I imagine it would be the same for a gay man), and god is the ultimate in that respect. As it has been said in previous posts, the god doesn't need to be real, for the feelings to be. What they are looking for is the feeling of security a masculine figure provides. They probably view homosexuality as being as bad of a sin as a man "looking at" another women when married. I am not saying that all priests are this way, but I do believe they make up a substantial amount of them. I would be willing to bet that as homosexuality becomes more of a socially acceptable thing, priests will be much harder to come by.

As a disclaimer, I am not saying that the type of people mentioned in this post are sexually attracted to God, nor to I believe that is the sole reason people maintain relationships. I am speaking of components of a relationship outside of sex (e.g., comfort, love, security).

I believe the homosexual-fantasy is a big part of this trend. Ted Haggard is not a catholic, and doesn't have to obey the celibacy rule. He claims to be heterosexual, but that is like a fork claiming to be a spoon. Observe...



I rest my case.