#1 flowing thoughts - contemplating breaking up.

I enjoy sometimes talking to myself, but typing to the internet is nice too. Anyways, this is what's bugging me today: My girlfriend's guy friend.

Why is it that women are not able to understand the concept of not having close relationships with other men while they are in a relationship? If the guy wasn't a complete d-bag, then it would be a little more tolerable. But when the guy is talking crap about me, and she doesn't even defend me, it gets annoying. He's also a complete perv with her—in the way he talks and "jokes" with her.

I'm thinking about breaking up with this girl. I just don't have the "fire" anymore. The issue with her is that I thought she was a good, conservative girl. But finding out that she has this sort of friend, and that little amount of loyalty for me, my image of her has certainly changed. I fell in love with a delusion, sadly. But now I'm stuck with the emotional attachment to that delusion. The real person is not the person I thought she was.

My strategy I'm employing now is to de-attach myself to this girl by thinking thoughts like "I don't care about her"..."she isn't important to me", etc. I want to reach the point where I don't care about her at all, then I will leave. I figure, she hurt me by putting on a facade and turning out to be a totally different person, so dragging her along while I separate myself emotionally is the best route.

I realize that she wasn't the problem, but my emotional attachment to her was. If I wasn't emotionally attached, then she wouldn't be able to stress me out (her and her friends). The lesson I learned is that the best thing to do in a relationship is to realize its purpose and don't get emotionally attached (the purpose being for the pragmatic utility).

I'm going to work hard in the future to avoid getting attached to people. This is me shooting from the hip, using Buddhist bullets. Buddhism teaches that emotional attachments cause pain and delusion. The delusion relationships cause is that they magnify importance of individuals, warp thinking, and ultimately lead to unwholesomeness. Never fall in love. 

Will Atheism Survive?

Recently there has been an rise in atheism. The main reason, in my opinion, is a combination of alternatives, Christianity being behind-the-times, and the liberal media. While I don't believe atheism is a bad thing, it is something that isn't right for everyone. I used to be an atheist, but still maintained many of the moral views I learned as a Christian. Now I consider myself to be a deist—I don't believe God interferes directly, but that a source of conscious intelligent underlies the universe's creation.

Going back to the main point—will atheism survive. I believe the answer is no. This is because of the fact that Christianity can and will evolve to better suit the modern lifestyle. In other words, a Christianity that can deal with new technologies and scientific understandings. Atheism exists because many people don't see Christianity as having all the answers so-to-speak. Christianity will evolve, and atheism will get squashed (irony). 

Why Bullies Bully

Bullying is a learned behavior. The concept that underlies bullying is "if you don't like someone, attacking them physically or psychological is the way to correct it". Bullying is a hateful act, and it requires a hateful child (at heart) to engage in it. I strongly believe that if a child (or adult) loves themselves and feels loved by others, then they do not feel the urge to attack others. Not only is bullying an attempt to assert dominance over others, but it's also a vent for suppressed frustration.

I believe the biggest cause for bullying behavior is the parents themselves. When a parent attacks their children verbally or physically, they are teaching their children that if they don't like a certain behavior in others, they are to act aggressively towards them. This is why I think it's a terrible thing to yell at or around children and obviously to attack them physically. Prisons are filled with people that had well-intentioned parents who didn't know parenting-skills any better than rocket building skills.

If your child bullies, then you not only need to have a calm, intelligent (as possible) conversation with the child (centered around empathy for others), but you also need to have a look in the mirror at what you did wrong; examples of failed parenting falls into areas like your children's television consumption, your reaction to their troublesome behavior, what you teach them regarding other people (realize that they learn by overhearing conversations). It's also important for a parent to be an open source for children to discuss problems with. It's important to never downplay their problems or denigrate them—this will teach them to not be open to you.

I Was Bullied

Much of my school experience involved bullying on a regular basis (as the victim). To be honest, because of bullies, my view of humanity and myself became cynical in general. Even my own father bullied me (but that's another topic). Even in elementary school I was bullied for being short and having a "different" last name.

Due to the bullying, I became shy and more and more introverted. I remember a time—during elementary school—when I would get into fights (more defending than anything). I never lost a fight, but it certainly didn't feel good to have physical attacks coming at me.

The worst physical act of intimidation was when this kid who was 1-2 years older than me and a lot bigger pulled out a knife and said he would slit my throat". My reaction was to go to the bus driver (where it occurred) and tell him about it.

I have many stories and theories about why bullies bully. I want to do a decent amount of blogging on the subject. If you want to read my content, click on the 'bullying' label at the bottom of this post. 

My Perception of Obama and the Racist Election

I voted for Obama. That said, my views have changed dramatically since then. During the 2008 election period, I was a fundemental atheist--not only was very rigid in my belief that there was no God, but I also wanted everyone around me. In other words, my main concern was anti-religion, so I favored the most secular candidate--Obama.

While my political interest was narrow (anti-religion), some people's motivation for voting for Obama or again were even more narrow--based on race. In my opinion, the people that voted for Obama because he was black African American are as guilty of racism as the people who didn't vote for him because he was black. Let me explain. Those that voted for McCain because of race perceived McCain as being "higher" than Obama. Is it any better if someone votes for Obama because his race makes him a more favorable candidate (regardless of their reason--first black president, etc.)? Racism is not a one way street. The sad thing is that in America, hatred towards white people is not as sensitive as hatred towards blacks African Americans.

[Side Note] - I actually dislike writing a blog that labels people as being a particular race--creating such ideas forces people to perceive race and in-group/out-group mentalities. 

When you vote, never vote based on the candidates race. Either way, you are being racist in the process.

Getting back to Obama. He failed when it came to fulfilling campaign promises. The reality is that he did very little and the country is still in sad shape on many fronts. As a college student, the unemployment rate and student loan issues scare me to death. Now that I'm no longer an atheist, my focus is on other  fronts politically--making me a independent-conservative leaning person. Obama has went a little too far on his attack on religion. I believe religion is important for most people. I know this is a major shift away from atheism, but what I found was that most people are not well behaved if they didn't have a controlling belief system. For example, even as an atheist I was against abortion (which is the opposite of what most atheists believe). In short, I didn't like how atheism belittle human experience and existence.

Obama supporting the pro-choice people is an immoral stance. It's clear that, from a conservative perspective, Obama is not morally knowledgeable in areas like respecting personal property, value of human life, going to war without congressional approval, and the list goes on. Also, given Obama's resume, he is not an authority on economic issues. It's far from controversial to claim that the economy is the biggest problem we face as a country, and I'm just not seeing Obama do the right things in that area.

The average voter knows very little about the issues. In fact, even at the time I voted for Obama, I wasn't that well informed. I believe a good idea would be to make voters take an exam to access knowledgeably about the issues; and if they fail the exam, their vote doesn't count. A Democracy will not work with an uninformed public, forced exams would make people study-up before voting. 

Going to blog all the time...

I was thinking, why don't I blog more often? Is it because I lack of ideas?...No, I have plenty of ideas. I think the problem with me is that I'm not so sure readers will be interested in reading my ideas. Right now I'm drunk...you know, listening to tunes and pissing vinegar, same old boring nothingness. Anyways, I'm going to make this blog be a non-stop rant about randomness. Here we go....

I hate rats....

I saw this rat running around in my room. I tried to kill it, but I kept missing with the walking stick I had. I ended up getting my dog to try to sniff it out (she's gotten rats before), but nothing. I seriously hate rats, terrible creatures...

#1 Mindfulness Discussion

On the blog, I'm going to be doing some mindfulness discussions. I'm going to keep them short and sweet. I'm also going to number them. This will be the first (as the title indicates). 

For me, mindfulness is a way of life--in fact, the practice of mindfulness has made me afraid of not being alive. Before I go any further, what do I mean by being alive? Being alive is to be aware of your life. Death, I believe, is a total lack of awareness. To put it in a different way, the soul cannot be aware of itself; so without anything to be aware of, nothingness pervades experience. But at the same time, we can't know how unaware we are in the present moment. Only by becoming aware in the present moment can we understand our past lack of awareness. 

Porn: Turning People Into Perverts

Being a pervert is a bad thing, and porn (and masturbation to porn) certainly can transform a person into a pervert.

What is a pervert?


My definition of pervert—which I believe adequately describes it—is someone that is unable to control themselves sexually (in actions and thoughts); in other words, being a pervert means to have poor impulse control in the realm of sexuality. Being a pervert is a behavioral disorder because it does interfere with the mind and body's ability to function. I believe being a pervert should be considered in the same realm as depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder; all of these disorders are caused by the brain functioning in a disorderly manner causing less-than optimal functioning (to put it mildly).

How does porn turn a person into a pervert?


Porn can be a highly pleasurable activity to those who consume it. Sounds good right? No. Because it is pleasurable, this means that the brain associates the content (random humans [and not their loved one] and sexual acts) with sexual pleasure. This means that, as a person feels stressed out or depressed, they will seek pleasurable rush caused by perceiving their surroundings in a sexual way. The brain, because it becomes addicted to sexual perceptions, will wire itself in a way that it sees the world through the lens of sexual lust. Thus, the pervert is created; a person defined by what pleasures him—sexual ideas and images directed towards anyone and everyone. Like a Christian will see God in everything (which is a good thing), porn addicts see sex in everything.

Why is Roger such an expert on porn addiction?


I'm a sociology major and have a strong interest (due to its relation) in human psychology. I'm also a heavy computer user, so I'm exposed to the views of the internet masses. I believe that I have a strong understanding of how a porn-addict's mind works; and, because I have an outside perspective on this cultural phenomenon, I believe I can see the issue more dynamically than those who are consumed by the perversion. A crazy person often doesn't know that they are crazy in the same way that a porn addict doesn't see their habit as a self-destructive addiction.

Fishing for Liberal Debate (in the Yahoo comment section)

I wrote the following to stir the pot. The news story was about gay marriage on some military base. Anyways, while I don't hate gay people (or have much of an opinion about them), I don't like the definition (perception) of marriage changing in my society. Now that liberals have gotten their foot in the door, over time, people will lose touch with the real purpose behind marriage—the union of man and woman for the purpose of creating offspring in a nurturing environment. With all liberals have fought for over the last 50-60 years, we have seen the family get decimated (approximately 50% divorce rate). Don't get me wrong, I don't hate liberals (or anyone), but I believe they are seriously misguided on many issues. Anyways, enough of my rambling, here is the post:

ME: "Liberal Strategy for getting their way: Push it in society's face until the people get used to it; it's brainwashing. Realize, morality is a perception; it's merely based on opinion (thus cannot be factual). Liberalism is a secular religion with its own god ([changing tradition]al social structures, customs, values, etc.), and they have faith that what they are fighting for is "progressive".If liberals got there way on every issue, they would still want something else to change. Essentially they look for what societal behavior is traditionally taboo and then fight for it, normalize, then move on. This is why liberals gravitate towards things like lewdness, vulgarity, self-destruction, and laziness (work ethic is traditionally valued). In other words, they fight for those who are considered social misfits. Liberals disobey authority like a brat kid disobeys their parent—just for the sake of doing it. This post will not get positive feedback. Sadly, what is true and good is a pain-inducing barrier for some (liberals) to overcome."

Anonymous liberal 1: "Jeremy, do you own a slave? Why not? At one time (in nearly every society) it was perfectly acceptable". 

 My response to Anonymous liberal: "Which had nothing to do with liberals (emancipation of the slaves). Anyone that takes a strict reading of the constitution would realize the issue regarding the rights of blacks. It had nothing to do with the moral degeneration that is occurring today. Apples and oranges (in case you haven't noticed, homosexual marriage is not slavery). If a gay person wants to get married, they should find an opposite sex partner or settle with a civil union. Here's a scenerio that will put my argument into context...
Imagine that the vast majority of society enjoys using Mayo on their sandwiches. However, about 3% of the population likes to use peanut butter. Those that love peanut butter create a bunch of activist groups to fight for the right to call peanut butter "Mayo". The peanut butter activists are successful and now peanut butter is referred to as "Mayo". The issue now is that Mayo refers to ANY sandwich spread and thus the word has lost its original meaning. Simple, right?"

Anonymous liberal 2: "No the conservatives strategy is obviously to deny they are gay until they get caught... happens all the time. True conservatives should applaud gay marriage as a conservative belief... "

My response: "Your warped brain needs to believe that. Reality: There is nothing conservative about gay marriage."

Anonymous liberal 1: "Again, your world view is incredibly limited. You're hard to speak with because I am an educated elitist. 
Everything you said is simple, but that doesn't make it right. You can't put your POV into any sort of context besides ignorance and intolerance." 

My response to Anonymous liberal 1: "Educated elitist? You seem more like a pseudo-intellectual, ego-maniac to me. You don't know my educational background. I know liberals let their imaginations get a hold of them. Sure, it probably feels good to daydream about how "elite" and "open-minded" you are; I'm sure you dream about your liberal superpowers regularly. Now, getting back to reality; while I'm not going to brag about the degrees I have, I will let you know that I have a decent background in Sociology and Psychology (one more-so than the other...I'll let you guess which). So when it comes to this subject matter (social issues and human psychology), it's very unlikely that you are significantly more knowledgeable than me. 

As for you: Be aware of the "perceptions" that you take for granted that are mere products of the imagination (liberals tend to be delusional). Realize that you are not a mind-reader, you'll be happier (and less deluded) in life. Did I forget to mention that your delusions of grandeur can get better if you step back down to earth? :) Yep, I believe so...

By the way, tolerance is not acceptance. I don't need to accept your worldview, but I admit that I am forced to tolerate the fact that people like you (liberals) roam the surface of this planet."

Anonymous liberal 3: "Jesus was a Liberal."

My response to Anonymous liberal 3: That's nonsense. Jesus didn't talk favorably about tax collectors, was against premarital sex (and even lusting "in the heart"), divorce, murder (he would not have supported abortion), supported the Old Testament (which had very strict laws), and warned of hell for sinners. If Jesus could come to earth today, I'm sure he would see liberal behavior as an abomination. 

I'll update if people leave comments about my comment. I'm fishing for a debate, let's hope I get some bites :)  Feel free to debate and/or just plain discuss the liberal vs. conservative cultural conflict in the comment section here.

*Update* Caught me some good, dopey liberals. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. 

Fred Willard's Lewd Conduct in Adult Theater

Image by Cbl62 (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0 or GFDL], via Wikimedia Commons (source does not endorse this blog)

If you don't know who this pervert is, he is a comedian; some of the roles he has filled were in the productions "Everyone Loves Raymond", "Best in Show", and "For Your Consideration". If you like any of those productions, I suggest you stop reading here; otherwise you will always have some disturbing imagery associated with those programs. Remember how Pee-wee Herman was ruined by his unwholesome behavior? I used to love that show as a kid, now it's just creepy. Anyways, let's get on with it...

The Los Angeles Police do a sweep of the Santa Monica area on a regular basis, and that includes a certain particular adult theater (a place where pathetic individuals with no dignity and/or self-control go; just my opinion). The authorities discovered that he was doing "lewd conduct". Now this is a family blog, so I wont go into detail; I would say use your imagination, but you really don't want to.

What is wrong with celebrities? I really don't understand it. I mean sure, you will get a few weirdos in a town, but some people make a living off reporting the terrible things these famous people do. Besides, isn't there enough nonsense for perverts on the internet to sustain them? Is it because he's into voyeurism? Is that it? 

Bleeding Nose Leads To Boxer's Arrest

A boxer from Toledo was arrested following some unorthodox evidence gathering. Martin Tucker (the boxer) had a fight in his home city— occurring in April—in which he got a bloody nose. To clean him up, his corner used a Q-tip. Tucker was suspected by investigators as having been involved in a bank robbery in July of 2009; the bank robbery involved two men stealing $5,379. A special agent named Robert Schmitz—a closeted Jedi master—snatched up the previously mentioned Q-tip after the fight and had the DNA analyzed to see if it was a match to the robbery in 2009; it turned out to be a match. Long story short, he was charged with robbing the bank and was charged for having a firearm involved as well. 


Was all that worth $5,379? They say that boxing can cause brain damage, well it certainly didn't help this guy. If you are ever tempted to rob a bank, stop for a few moments and contemplate just how stupid such an idea is. 


Random Note: Why does it seem most boxers are Christians? Well, if Tucker is a Christian he should be concerned about ticking off God; I'm sure He doesn't like people violating one of His 10 Commandments ("Thou shall not steal"..I think that's how it goes).  


Source: Detroit News (click me for link to original story)

George Zimmerman claims 'God's plan' underlying the shooting of Trayvon Martin

George Zimmerman recently claimed that he believed it was "God's plan" that the Trayvon Martin shooting took place. Before I get into my belief in God's role in this situation, let me give my take on the case as a whole.

Unless you don't pay attention to the news, you are painfully aware of the Trayvon Martin shooting; the media has been going OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder [anxiety disorder]) regarding its discussion/informing of the case. The short of it is that George Zimmerman—a neighborhood watch volunteer—shot Trayvon Martin in what he claims was self-defense. The media has been pushing the perception that Zimmerman's shooting of Trayvon was racially motivated and unwarranted. If you want to know more regarding the case, seek out your local Google website. 

At first I didn't buy the whole "he's racist" thing. But my opinion slowly turned around when family and co-workers came out of the woodwork to claim he was. In fact, a former co-worker (I believe a Muslim) claims that he harassed him because of his religion. 

To make matters worse, and while it isn't directly related, one of Zimmerman's cousins claimed that he molested her several times over a 10 year period (6-16 years of age, him being two years older).  

Random note: In the comment section of the molestation article I read (can't remember the exact article, I believe it was on Yahoo), this guy was defending Zimmerman's action saying that everyone "played doctor" at that age; stupidity on the internet is certainly not in recession. 

Keeping all this in mind, I'm going to step back and wait to see the results of the trial. On second thought, if I had a guy following me at night, I may get confrontational as well (probably wouldn't get physical). 

Is God responsible? Is this His will?

In my opinion, no; I don't believe this is a result of God's influence, but rather the opposite. The Bible is quite clear about God's perception of killing (one of the Ten Commandments) and hatred (Jesus said that to hate is to commit murder in the heart). If George Zimmerman is racist, he is certainly not following Jesus' teachings; Jesus said to not prejudge a person based on their outer appearance. In fact, Jesus taught non-violence; remember how he said that if someone slaps you in the face, slap the other side, etc.? 

British Olympic Cheerleader Controversy

The Olympics in Britain apparently have a cheerleading squad. The controversy stems from a public voting on the group of cheerleaders they wanted. The public chose The Crystals—made famous by their routine of the infamous song "Call Me Maybe"—a highly sexualized group. The committee in Britain, who had the final say, instead went with the London Wild Cat cheerleaders (a less provocative group).

I left a comment on the orginal story (found on Yahoo Sports). Here it is:

Roger: "Good for the British committee; they at least have dignity. If this was in the U.S. they probably would have had strippers and abortion tents. I know I'm being factious, but public events and the media need to stop catering to the perverts—the Olympics is not about trying to make people horny—there's plenty of internet space for such degenerates already."

I mostly got positive feedback so far. If some moron tries to debate me I'll update this post accordingly. Nastiness is too representative on the internet; the moral need to speak up. In regards to my abortion comment, I believe abortion is immoral in more ways than one. I'm not saying that those who get abortions are all perverts, but certainly many lack the values that I hold (e.g. family, human life, sexual morals).

Click here for the source (Yahoo Sports)

Foie Gras Ban in California

Apparently 'foie gras' ("fatty liver" in french) is banned in California. Okay, so people can't have fat livers?...is that what I'm referring too? Not exactly, for human's at least. Apparently some people force-feed ducks, corn—by shoving a tube down their throat—causing them to eat way more than they ordinarily would. On one hand, I disagree with the ban; I mean, don't we kind of do the same thing to ourselves? (we're all a bunch of overeating lard-asses). That said, on the other hand, this seems incredibly harsh on the animals—on humans it would be considered a form of torture—albeit I suppose killing the animals is harsh too. I love eating meat, but my hope is that the meat is harvested (so much better of a term than 'slaughter') as painlessly as possible.

Anyways, recently a judge named Stephen V. Wilson struck down a group's push to remove the ban. The full story is here (click me). Tell em' Roger sent ya. 

Complexity and Creation: an argument that made me re-think atheism)

I believe in an intelligent creator of the universe. Do you? Without bogging you down with trivia, many scientists believe in a creator. In-fact, 40% of scientists believe in an intelligent creator; Francis Collins, the source of the mentioned statistic, is a scientist (Human Genome Project director) and also a believer. My point is that not all scientists are atheists. 


The Universe is much more complex than anything humans have created; in fact, it's even more complex than we can comprehend. Shouldn't that give us pause? To think such a thing could "just happen" seems ridiculous. The reason many are atheists today is because of two things:


1) Many famous atheists have presented articulate arguments against intelligent creation by attacking old religious scripture. 


2) There is a major disconnect between contemporary moral values and traditional ones; this creates the need for people to escape Christian values by formulating arguments against them. 


In this blog post, I'm going to address the first reason people become atheists. Sure, religious text (referring to Old/New Testament) can be argued against; especially if they are looked at with a narrow lens (literally and/or taking the text out of context). Let's say a portion of the Bible is capable of being argued against, does this disprove God (intelligent force[s])? No. It's like claiming that just because leprechauns aren't real, this disproves rainbows. More importantly, atheists miss the point of the Bible: the moral and spiritual lessons that are contained within. The bible is not intended to be a scientific book because it was created with a different methodology.



Evolution debunked as real science. 

Evolution is pseudo-science that has caused people to miss the forest full of trees—an intelligent force underlying the creation of the universe. As you read the following, keep an open mind; don't just view it with a hateful, biased attitude.

Atheists claim evolution disproves scripture (specifically Genesis; spontaneous biological creation via an intelligent force). Has macro-evolution even been shown to have occurred? No. The best they can show is micro-evolution; but micro-evolution has not been shown to be able to accommodate for all the structural complexity and speciation. Even those that use "micro-evolution" to breed different varieties of foods and animals know that there are limits to their meddling. At best, all micro-evolution has been shown to do is alter the representation of existing features (within a population), not create new ones. Micro-evolution's reach includes things like bone length, width, and density; hair color and texture; internal organ size and strength, etc.; skin color, texture, and thickness. There is a lot of room for variation among existing structures, but this capacity was known about way before Darwin. Darwin went wrong when he claimed that variation within a species was capable of creating entirely new species and internal structures. He claimed (with zero evidence) that with enough time, the most simplest form of life (known to us as 'bacteria') could transform into a multi-celled organisms as complex as human beings. There is simply no solid evidence that such an event occurred (bacteria > all modern life). It is all hopeful speculation on the part of scientists, but certainly outside of the scientific method; yet it's being taught as science. When scientists leave the realm of science and get into speculation, they are really outside of their domain (which limits them by the scientific method). Scientists simply have no evidence (only speculation) evolution is responsible for the complexity of life on earth, and let's not even get started about how life even got here to begin with (their speculation is even more scattered).

Sure, variation exists among populations, but when someone breeds a dog to have slightly longer fur, is any new complexity added? I'm talking about real complexity: some new evolutionary change that makes the animal's internal structure(s) more complex than its peers' (otherwise the species' population would always remain unchanging). Most biologists claim that "evolution took a long time", but what does more time get us? If it can't be shown to occur (increasing complexity) in the short term (even within a 1,000+ years) in even a minute amount, what is more time going to give us? I'm not talking about anything unreasonable; just the slightest little change that creates new, viable internal structures within existing species. Let me repeat, complexity has never been observed to increase, only speculated to increase. Yet with zero evidence (only speculation), we are suppose to believe that our earliest ancestors were bacteria—it just took "a long time". I'm sorry, but I'm not going to have faith in scientists' speculation of what happened; they are bound by the scientific method and anything that goes beyond that transforms them into laypersons. They have faith in an unproven concept (macro-evolution) because it seems more "scientific" than the religious explanation; they would rather go with that speculation than with one which seems even more unreachable—God.


A scenario to put scientific speculation into context


In an experiment, amino-acids (important building block of life) were created in a lab using basic materials speculated to exist on primitive Earth. Here's an example of what that would be like: Humans die off and all traces of our existence disappear. Aliens descend on this plant to study its life. They managed to discover this strange contraption, perfectly preserved in ice, with wheels and an apparent design....

Image by StaraBlazkova (Own work) [GFDL or CC-BY-SA-3.0-2.5-2.0-1.0], via Wikimedia Commons 

It seems that there must have been a designer...but wait! Oil was discovered in it! Alien science has proven that oil originated by ancient plant life. Hmm, that must mean that with the natural production of oil, over a long period of time, machinery must have evolved around its use. I mean, the oil must have came first; without oil, the machine could never have functioned. Mystery solved, evolution is true! And complexity "just happened" *poof*. 


An intelligent creator is too hard to prove, probably impossible. Scientists don't like that. They prefer ends that they believe could be proven to occur (which is fair enough, speculation is an important part of the method, but requires evidence to support it before it can be considered true scientific knowledge). That said, I hope our search for the truth doesn't cause us to miss the forest full of trees like it did for the aliens.

The reality is that increasing complexity has never been shown to occur without the interference of intelligence, guiding the process. Scientists need to humble themselves with an awareness of their ignorance. They have blurred the lines between speculation and scientific knowledge.    

I love hamburgers (random life)

Barbecued hamburgers with sliced-bread. Yum!

Guy calls all Catholics "pedophiles": My response (Yahoo comments)

Bubbles: "Creepy Catholic pedophiles think they are on the moral high ground? Really!"

Me: "It's prejudice (and bigoted) to label all Catholics as 'pedophiles'. A few misfits does not describe the church as a whole."

Bubbles: "@ Jeremy.. Your backward thinking on contraception may be accepted in third world countries where the population is ignorant and superstitious but it just doesn't work in this country."

Me: "I never provided an opinion on contraceptives. In case you didn't notice, my comment was about YOU claiming that all Catholics were pedophiles (which was implied given the context). 


Here's my take on the issue: If someone wants to use contraceptives, then that's there business; that said, its inclusion in healthcare coverage should not be government mandated. The federal government was not given that power in the constitution (you may wanna give it a read); which was very specific about the role of government and its powers. The constitution was meant to prevent the government from growing and controlling as much as it desired. 


You may think conservatives have backwards thinking, but I can assure you that they perceive people like you in the same way. You can think whatever you want; opinions are not factual--so those that hold them are merely perceiving reality (including people's behavior) differently--so there is no "right" or "wrong". Morality falls into the realm of opinion (based on different valuations). Long story short: Your morality is neither right or wrong, just an opinion. 


I assume you are your own moral authority; that would explain a lot."


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I'll provide updates if he comments further.

I do this (discuss my internet "comments") to correct people's thinking. I don't know about you, but I'm sick of all the unchecked lewdness, bigotry, and ignorance on the internet. Stupid people need guidance. 

How to know when to leave a relationship...

Many people wonder if they should leave a relationship. While I'm no expert on bad relationships—I think it's important readers understand this—I have seen many in my circle get involved in them (friends, family, and Facebook frangers [friended strangers]). The first thing to do—at least in my opinion—is to get out a piece of paper and pen. It may sound cliche, but it's important to juice (squeeze the information out) the brain as to why you are questioning the relationship. Follow along this process:

1) "What do I feel?"
       -ex. "jealous"

2) Write out all the reasons you feel the way you do.
       -ex. "I caught him flirting with another girl/guy on Facebook"

If at this point you are unable to think of a reason to justify your feelings of insecurity, assess whether or not it is rational to feel the way you do; it's important for "feelings" to be rationally justified. 


3) List out the possibilities that stem out of the reasons.
      -examples: -"I think he's/she's cheating on me"
                        -"Maybe they're just friends"
                        -"My imagination was too overactive"

4) Make sure the list is as exhaustive as possible.
                     
5) Deeply contemplate the list's possibilities; think of which of the possibilities is the most probable based on what you know—being aware to factor in the emotional bias created by fear/anger—be as objective as possible.

The point of all this is to lay out why you feel the way you do and see if it's rational. It's always good to end a relationship based on rationality. If you are absolutely sure that your partner isn't being faithful, is abusive, doesn't love you—using you for sex, money, wants someone "better", etc.—then it's important to leave. 

Blogging reduces stress

One of the reasons I love to blog is the way it reduces stress. It's almost like I get into a flow, and from that flow, I'm able to also express myself--stresses, political views, religious views, perception of people. I used to have a blog about atheism, but now I find myself to be more theistic; I think I'm sort of a Christian, but I'm unsure how exactly to fit God into the whole mix of things. Anyways, I always find that if some idea is stuck in my head--for whatever reason--blogging helps me contextualize it, get a deeper understanding of it, and finally let it go. Your blogging can also be totally anonymous; I once told some relatives about my past blogs, and regretted so much (filtering what you write is annoying, and you can't write about people close to you). You obviously can't get into hate speech; for example, if being a racist stresses you out, that might be a challenge to blog the stress away (don't be racist, it's not nice and totally racist). So start blogging today! You can even do it from a cellphone :) 

Blogging is better than Tweeting (Twitter)

It seems that so many people use Twitter, but I couldn't understand why. For the hell of it, I made an account, and then tried it out. I found the site to be annoying--between the complete lack of punctuation and spelling--and kind of lame. More people should use Blogger; it's just better than Twitter all around, and isn't the purpose the same?

Here are a few reasons why blogging is better:

-Allows for deeper thought

-Embedded videos/pictures

-Comment section is better organized

-More friendly for search engines

-Opportunity for monetization; allowing the author can be compensated for their efforts. 

Blogging Binge

Time for a blogging binge! I figure that I'm bored with nothing to do but think, might as well put those thoughts down on paper the internet. The topics will be random, but what will be the common thread throughout this blogging binge will be me--a moralistic, politically interested, college student; or more specifically, my thoughts. I hope you enjoy it. If you have any suggestions or find anything offensive, let me know, and I'll consider revising. 

I used to be an atheist...

I used to be an atheist. Now I'm busy working on being a good Christian. I was converted back after reading a book about evolution and humanism from a Christian perspective. It made a lot of sense to me. Honestly, looking back now I can't believe that I fell for the lie of atheism and humanism (two heads of the same coin, which only diminish the greatness of humanity and the universe we inhabit...not to mention the creator). Atheism is certainly very pervasive in american society, and it needs to be met head-on. The further we move away from the moral truth (Christianity), the worse society becomes. On this blog, I'm looking to debate atheists. I'm willing to bet many atheists are out there that would absolutely love to debate (they are more trying to convince themselves than convert others to atheism). Again, I used to be an atheist, so I know how their minds work. 

Liberals are Bad People (rant)

I don't like liberals. Liberals--aside from being incredibly obnoxious--are destructive to society. When I was younger, I had a few liberal beliefs. Also, I wouldn't consider myself to be a Republican: I don't support outsourcing for example. I suppose what I am referring to are the social liberals (me being a social conservative). To be honest, I'm a cultural Christian. What I mean by this is that I believe in much of the moral teachings of Jesus and enjoy the holidays. Anyways, getting back on topic, liberals fight against the nuclear family, traditional culture (which is very important for social cohesion), and having a strong work-ethic (certain beliefs and social policies discourage work-ethic). Liberals are like a chain smoker getting cancer and patting themselves on the back when the start drinking green tea. Liberalism has caused damage to american society for sure. Liberals are like a brat child that do the opposite of what an authority figure (such as the father) wants them to do.

I strongly dislike liberals and the direction they want this country to go in. Previously this blog went after religious stupidity (I've lightened up on religion, and think it can be a good thing for society), now I'm looking to focus on liberal stupidity (which I believe causes societal chaos).

Daydream Addiction and Derealization/Depersonalization

While daydreaming isn't generally recognized as being something that can be addictive. It certainly can be, and many people are addicted to daydreaming. People daydream for a few reasons...

-To plan (typically a useful application)

-To feel good (a possibly negative application)

-To escape reality (a possibly negative application)

When we daydream, the awareness of our senses becomes greatly diminished. The weird thing about awareness is that we aren't aware of what we aren't aware of. When we lose the awareness of our sight--for example--we aren't aware of it. Fortunately, the brain still stores the information coming into the eyes (in a limited, unfocused way...because the eyes are either focused on physical objects or not, here the brain "fills in" the perceptual gaps). 

The reason reality (the self is part of our reality) doesn't seem real is because it isn't. The senses have gotten into the habit of ignoring (i.e. to escape reality) so much that the brain is in overdrive to "fill in the gaps". On a certain level, the brain is aware of the fact that much of the reality it is attempting to form is imaginary, thus causing the feelings of derealization. Derealization can be a very scary thing, and in order to cope, daydreaming can be used (again, as an escape).

Daydreaming can feel very good, a person can put together a story line that makes them feel a wide variety of emotions and psuedo-perceptions. It is the fact that it can feel very good and be used as an escape that creates the possibility of it being an addictive behavior. 

Daydreaming itself is a cause of derealization. In fact, it is the ultimate state of derealization. The best thing to do if you find yourself here is to stop daydreaming. The next best thing is to reduce it dramatically. Either way, the opposite of daydreaming is mindfulness. Use the search bar on this blog to look up some of my writings about mindfulness or even Google it. 

I like to keep my blogs posts short and sweet, if you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask. 

Love and Reducing Anxiety

It may sound cliche that love can make a person feel content and happy (even though it shouldn't be considered cliche). Love in the american culture is a dying philosophy. What is love? Love is difficult to describe, but most people understand it on some level. I would describe love as being the strongest emotional connection a person can have, and something that roots us in our formation of reality. In other words, without love, we are lost.

Many people dislike love. When they hear about it, they ignore the ideas associated with it or even attack them. I believe one of the reasons this nation (and the world in general) is so psychologically unbalanced is because of the lack of love. Love is an emotional need for sure, and I believe it starts at home, with the self. Sadly, in our culture, we are taught to hate ourselves much more than love.

So how can a person love themselves? It's not something that is instant, it takes time. Loving is an activity. One of the best ways--in my opinion--to love, is positive affirmations. Repeating a positive affirmation over and over, trying to feel the idea, is a great way to create a sense of well-being (people often, unknowingly or not, repeat negative affirmations to themselves on a regular basis).

The affirmations can be something simple like...

"I love myself.."

Repeated with our inner voice. If you notice a bunch of thoughts come up to contradict the idea of self-love, this is normal. In fact, if the affirmation isn't believable, then this is a sure sign that you don't love yourself (making you a perfect candidate for positive affirmations). No matter who you are, or how you perceive yourself, you should always love yourself. Love is unconditional. A mother doesn't love her child because it looks a certain way, gets high enough grades, etc. Love yourself today and make it a habit. Love starts at home.

Another beautiful thing about love is that it allows people to perceive reality in a much clearer way. If you love a person, you see them in much higher detail. If you hate yourself, you will ignore yourself. Awareness is key when it comes to reducing anxiety. Fear is a state of ignoring (desire to 'escape').  

Why I left Atheism

Caution, the following may seem a little disorganized. It was written in a state of flow, and not thought out and organized beforehand (I hate writing like that, blah). 

It is in my opinion that atheists are wrong in their certainty of an unknown. I used to be an atheist, but I found the position ironically requires faith to maintain (and a belief in an all-knowing, all-aware self). It's without question that this universe is a complex thing, and to make matters worse the ability to be aware of the self is another one of those big unknowns. It's a shame that atheists close themselves off to certain spiritual experiences. It's fairly easy to experience the presence with an open heart (love being what opens it). The reason I consider myself to be an 'agnostic' is because I am ignorant of the underlying source of it. Of course I have no way of knowing that such a thing is capable of creating a universe and/or able listen to and answer prayers. But I definitely see how the "higher power" can be a source of strength for people, regardless of what it is. Without a doubt it does exist on some level (even if it is only in the mind). So yeah, atheism is not a good position to take. I find that most atheists (especially the outspoken ones) are those that have felt pain as a result of religion (obviously not from God, which is not a painful experience). It's easy to attack religion (which I have done a lot of in the past), but when it comes to God, it's one of those things that need to be experienced. It's outside of our external senses, so we have a tough time describing it. In fact, the only word that comes even close to describing it is 'love'. Many people in today's society are afraid of love, and this is why they have trouble with relationships in general, it is why the rate of depression and other mental disorders are on the rise (depression is a spiritual illness because its source is the core of our being in the same way that love is). The word 'love' has been labeled as being cliche and corny in society, and we wonder why society is suffering today.

1 John 4:8 is a bible verse that, I believe, gets at the heart of all of this.

"Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love"


If God is love, then it's hard to deny that God cannot be experienced. So essentially atheists don't believe love exists. 

Thoughts cause Anxiety (and can help relieve it)

People that have anxiety issues typically have constant brain chatter that is so pervasive that it eventually becomes ignored.

slightly off-topic:
This doesn't have anything to do with the anxiety per se, but when a person is exposed to a stimuli enough, the brain stops to consciously recognize it. 

But just because a suffer of anxiety isn't aware of a worrying thought/s, doesn't stop the thought's influence over a person. As a person who had serious anxiety in the past (and mild anxiety today), one of my best tips is to merely bring awareness to the thought-process. The majority of the time, the thoughts that stress us out are irrational, but they can torment a person that ignores them. Never ignore a worrying thought, instead try to see the big picture, put it into perspective, think about the worry out-loud (forces the idea to be subject to higher reasoning). Going back to the thesis of this blog post, it is the worries that are repeated over and over again that allow anxiety to build up and stick around in a person's life (like constantly scratching at a scap, it is made worse and worse overtime). The important thing to do....

By the way, I tend to write as the thoughts flow out of me, so this post might be a bit rambley

..is to, when you notice negative thoughts come in, replace them with positive thoughts. This will help balance the worldview. It's not a bad thing to have negative thoughts, but just be balanced. Consciously try to think of positive thoughts and at least be 50/50 (I prefer to be 20/80 with negative to positive thoughts, respectively). In other words, when you notice negative thoughts, go through a cognitive exercise of forcing yourself to think of positive things (can be anything optimistic).  

Talking to God vs. Talking to Yourself.

I'll admit it, I talk to myself all the time. Sometimes I even talk to the internet (which is what blogging is, and people are allowed to watch). But why is it so weird for people to talk to a "higher power"? During my more close-minded days, I used to make fun of people that would pray to God. Regardless if God exists or not (I have no way of knowing if such a being exists), is it any less rational to talk to yourself as oppose to what many atheists refer to as an "imaginary friend"? When you talk to yourself, you're really talking to an imaginary self. Sometimes we just need someone to talk with. It's not like anyone can be totally free of delusion anyways. Nearly everyone's (other than maybe some Buddhists monks) perceptions have inaccuracies, but there's such a thing as "useful delusions". At the end of the day being happy is what's important, and if praying to God or talking to yourself helps fulfill a psychological need, I say go for it. 

The Benefit of Mitt Romney's "Prank" on Gay Kids

Mitt Romney cut a gay kid's (who was closeted at the time) hair in high school (physically held him down and cut his bangs). Mittens knew that the kid could have gotten a lazy eye. The man has a  heart of gold (maybe platinum?)  

Update - Final Exam Today

I have a final exam in the Caring for America course that I'm taking. It's all about dementia and old people doing weird shit (like the behavior of carrying around fecal matter because they don't know what it is). Courses like this are disturbing to take because eventually we will all reach that point (unless we die before our time). I just can't imagine living each moment around stranger family members and not being able to contextualize anything. It would be like being drunk 24-7. 

Update: I hate studying for finals...

I read 300 pages yesterday, and have to read about 200 pages today and write 6 pages (typed) for assignments due. It's ridiculous that these professors have work due on finals week. I made sure to give them all terrible reviews on our last class (last week). 

Anti-Liberal (Yahoo News) Comment that I enjoyed.

"You know you’re a Liberal if you believe free speech of anything vulgar or sexual is fine. However free speech of anything related to God is not."


Thought I would put this up here. I think it's so true of liberal idiots. The double standard that liberals have in what should be allowed as "free speech" and what shouldn't is so obvious. Anyone should be free to express religious views (even politicians). 

Rant on Obama and Gay Marriage

I don't like Obama, let me get that out first. I don't like Obama because of his spending, his use of military force WITHOUT congressional approval, and his apparent apathy about the state of the United States (which is  fairly common among professional attention whores). Obama is a flip-flopper on the issue of gay marriage, which is a major slip up if he hopes to get reelected. Gay marriage is a joke. I say that because marriage is a traditional institution that has been around for thousands of years, existing for the purpose of love between a man and a women which results in the creation of humans. Marriage provides the family, which is the foundation of society. With high divorce rates, and now men wanting to marry other men and women other women, what exactly is marriage now? What percent of people actually marry for the purpose of actually CREATING a family (adoption creates nothing, it merely relocates individuals that are victims of our failing society)? Even if gay marriage becomes legalized (liberals are fighting for any who rebel against the current social structures, being only concerned with its destruction and replacement with nothing but base human instinct), I will not accept their marriage as being legitimate. To me, gay marriage would be a facade at best. I don't hate gay people, but this is a clear attack on traditional views of marriage. Marriage to me is a sacred thing, and it's under attack. Nothing makes the fact that marriage has been attacked in our culture more obvious than the over 50% divorce rate. 

Changing name of site to reflect my change of views.

The title pretty much says it all. I would consider myself to be an agnostic now. Atheism is too rigid of a stance to take on the issue of spirituality and religion. Also, I'm a conservative (always have been), and I wanted my blog title to reflect that as well. 

Liberals are Wrong/Delusional

Liberals have an intense arrogance about them, and as I will show in this post, they are full of "it". Liberalism is a psychological disorder. You may be thinking that this is hyperbole, but it's not. While some liberals are indeed well educated, they also have deficiencies when it comes to reality formation. In other words, and to be more specific, the liberal mind doesn't process the difference between what is imaged vs. what is experienced without conscious effort. While yes, virtually all people (perhaps excluding those who are into meditation) have useful delusions, but for liberals it is much more pervasive in their thought-process. For conservatives, their awareness is more grounded in personal experience via the senses (the only real experience out there). We can't experience reality beyond our senses, but liberals lose the awareness of their senses are unable to differentiate between what is real versus what is imagined. Most people have these "trance-like" states, but for liberals they space out much more often, and (from what I've experienced) seemingly are unable to perceive the shift between experiencing the senses and experiencing delusion created by the imagination. 

Example

A moderate/conservative individual has no problem eating meat, they see a delicious plate of hot-wings and/or a cheeseburger and start to salivate (assuming they have an appetite and the food is decent quality). A super-duper liberal sees meat and their imaginations run wild with images of animals being murdered. They believe that these images are real, and this causes the manifestation of negative emotions and perhaps even sickly feelings. In fact, the delusion of vegetarian liberals (the vast majority of vegetarians are liberals) is so pervasive that many even believe that animals are people. What do I mean by this? Well, they inject human emotions, even a human soul (using their oh-so-active imaginations) into the heads of chickens and fish, and believe that their experience is the same as theirs. This causes the hard-wiring we have against cannibalism to activate. 

Those who are grounded to reality with mindfulness are naturally more conservative. They don't "see" the world through multiple perspectives because they know they can't. Liberals believe that just because they can imagine the world through someone else's eyes, this means that their imaginations are accurtely depicting it. Liberals, reality check, you can only view the world through your own experience. When empathy crosses the line into the liberal-god-complex, this causes seriously distorted lines of reasoning. 

My advice: Appreciate your ignorance, don't encourage delusion, and accept people as they are. 

Avoid Metal/Rock/Rap Music if you Have Anxiety

Aggressive music can trigger the fight-or-flight response. In fact, this is the purpose of such music, to give people a "rush". The issue is that for those who have anxiety issues, the fight-or-flight response exasperates anxiety levels. Speaking from personal experience, while such music may seem to be "reducing stress", this is only because of the stress hormones that flood into the bloodstream that numb the body (which what the fight-or-flight response is suppose to do).

The best music to listen to if you have anxiety issues is calm, relaxing music. Such music can have a positive influence on anxiety levels. 

Cognition Filters and why Liberals lack them.

There is an importance to creating filters in the mind so that we prevent unwanted and/or painful thoughts to enter into conscious awareness so that they don't become bothersome. In the society we live in today, we are perhaps too open about certain topics, and have become brainwashed into believing we should over-think things that cause emotional pain to "get it out" (which doesn't actually work, but instead makes the problem even worse). Suppression is a good thing, if done right. The brain is designed to handle emotionally-disturbing thoughts by the use of unconsciously filtering them out. There are many topics that people run away from (like the thought of their grandparents having sex, or death), and this is a good thing. The "liberal" mind is wired to over-think everything to the point that they feel they understand everything. I've noticed that liberals tend to not respect the boundaries of others and they tend to psychologically damaged by their "thinking outside the box". "Thinking outside the box" is not a good thing because it removes important context anchors that ground people to reality. A "context anchor" is something that gives people a steady context so that they have a clear view of reality, which can only be perceived through the senses. Liberals lose touch with reality because they lose the awareness that their worldview is imaginary (everyone's is, we don't have telepathy). Essentially the problem is the disconnection from reality caused by certain types of thinking. I believe the cause of the liberal-progressivism that we see today is the television, internet, and music (to name a few). In order to watch TV (and understand it), we must remove the self from the equation; essentially TV forces the mind to ignore the body as a context anchor.

I plan to write more on this problem. Psychological problems are so pervasive in this society, and as a society our perceptions of reality have become so distorted that we have lost touch with reality. 

How to instantly rid the self of delusion.

Humans, in order to function well in complex society, must possess a certain amount of useful delusions. The main delusion that allows for this is believing that a past and future exist. The reality is that the past and future are us believing that are imaginations are real (when people imagine the past and future, they often believe it is). All that is created by the imagination is imaginary, and when we believe it is something more, this is delusion warping the perception of reality. For example, people with anxiety problems often worry about the future, but what they are experiencing when they worry is imaginary (at the time it seems real, which is why it affects them).

So, in order to rid ourselves of delusion instantly, we must bring ourselves to the awareness that there is no past or future (such things are imaginary) and perceive the world only through the senses (anything "outside" of the senses is produced by the imagination). This can be done by repeating the following affirmation, and believing it...

"there is no past or future, and nothing exists that I can be aware of beyond my senses..."

What is anxiety?

Anxiety, for the most part, is caused by the imagination (i.e. it is a response). For the sake of accuracy, anxiety must be perceived as a physiological response caused by imagination when it is, otherwise awareness of the cause will never be had (awareness of a problem is the first step towards fixing it). With this awareness that anxiety is a response to imaginary things (anything that is imagined is), it loses its emotional punch. No matter how believable the stuff we imagine  is, it should not pass into the realm of "reality" because this is a delusional mindset (like imagining what is going on outside of your senses, imagining what people think, and so on).

How to falsify beliefs to overcome anxiety.

It is false beliefs about reality that often underlie problems with anxiety. I've suffered and am still overcoming my anxiety issues (which I've had for as long as I can remember). Anxiety issues is the sort of thing that takes time to overcome, so, like a diet to lose weight, we shouldn't expect immediate results. In order to overcome anxiety we must change the way we perceive reality.

So take out a sheet of paper (or open Microsoft Word) and ask yourself "what am I worried about?" or "what am I scared of?". Then look at whatever comes to mind, and tell yourself "what I am experiencing is imaginary, it's not real" (this is literally true because all things imagined are imaginary. The problem is that we believe some imaginary things are real, and this causes it to emotionally effect us. Once we realize that the cognition that is emotionally bothering us is, in reality, not real, then it loses its emotional punch.

No matter what you are afraid of, this method works, but it takes a certain amount of understanding and awareness of this function of the brain in order to properly perceive it. Try to pay attention to this process, and when you notice your imagination is firing off, and especially when its causing emotional pain, make sure to perceive it accurately. If we tune out the awareness of our thought process, we can become distorted by it. It's kind of like how when people lose the awareness of what they are viewing on TV is being viewed on a television set, it emotionally effects them (same goes for video games as well). In other words, anxiety is NOT caused by the worry(ies) themselves, but the inaccurate perception of these day-terrors (like daydreams, they are literally dreams that occur while we are awake, but most of the dream is seemless with reality, so it typically goes under our radar of truth).

Domestic Abuse and how to come to terms.

During my first 18 years of life, I had to put up with fairly harsh domestic abuse. While the abuse I experienced wasn't physical (most of the time), it was still bad. In fact, many people don't even consider verbal abuse to even be a form of abuse--it is. My father would threaten to kill family members (including myself). In fact, this one time when he was in a "mood" he was loading and unloading his shotgun. It seemed like when he was mad at my mother, he was mad at all of us. Without going into too much detail (I will in future blog posts), what I want to talk about here is the things I noticed in my father, and what I believe is the underlying cause of most abusive fathers.

One thing that I often say is that if you were to take my father's brain and put it into the head of a 10 year old (assuming he would behave in the same way), people would tell him that "you need to grow up". If you are in a domestic abuse situation, could you say the same thing? Probably. I believe domestic abusers do what they do because of a psychological immaturity. When a child doesn't get what they want, they throw a temper tantrum. A tempter tantrum is exactly what happens during many domestic abuse situations. People are suppose to grow out of having tempter tantrums as a means of coping with the stresses of life, but some "adults" fail to grow out of it, and as adults, act like children. While perhaps not present in all domestic abuse situations, in my personal experience I noticed that when my father was mad at someone (typically my mother), he was mad at EVERYONE. This is another sign of psychological immaturity. Someone that is psychologically mature is able to become aware of what is emotionally upsetting them and has their frustrations dealt with in both an adult manner and focus is directed at what is actually upsetting. When a child is frustrated, they often are mad at EVERYONE, and the same is true for domestic abusers. See the trend here? Domestic abusers are immature.

The way to come to terms with past domestic abuse is to change the perception of it to something more accurate. In the mind of a person who is having an adult tempter tantrum, they are right. They are not evil, they are just underdeveloped (to put it nicely) in certain areas psychologically. People that are developmentally slow (when it comes to coping with anger) should not be hated, but understood, and as far as relationships are concerned, avoided. In other words, we shouldn't hate people for lacking something that they logically would desire to have if they had the choice (psychological maturity and self-control). These people have psychological problems that probably fall into the realm of mental disorder, so it's better to perceive domestic abusers as such--a person with a mental disorder/illness. Perceiving domestic abusers as being mentally deficient instead of evil helps us in taking away the negative emotions we associate with them, and even better, it allows us (especially women) to realize that they will not change because chances are they can't.

Domestic abuse can cause a great amount of anxiety and depression. It's important (I believe) to perceive the perpetrator as being psychologically deficient instead of evil, allowing a person to give up the false belief that the person is evil (people in the past used to believe people like schizophrenics had demons inside of them).  Coming to terms with this is as simple as changing our beliefs about the person, we should go from perceiving such people as "evil" to being "developmentally retarded".